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  • How To Fix Bad Posture: My Favorite Secret Tool

    Bad Posture Corrector » From the Infinite Embers blog

    Got bad posture? Get this correcting brace.

    (Note: This post is NOT sponsored and is written out of genuine love. However, it does contain Amazon Affiliate links that support the blog!)

    Woo boy, I should have listened to my mother about sitting up straight. I’ve been on a mission to correct my bad posture for a while now, and this is my favorite tool that I’ve tried, by far.

    My bad posture began when I was a kid. For a long time though, I didn’t think it was that big of a deal, so I wasn’t conscious about it. Years of way-too-heavy backpacks and hours spent hunched over my keyboard writing eventually took their toll on my body and helped contribute to my chronic neck injury that began back in 2013. My traps and neck muscles all seized up, leaving me immobile and in so much pain I became obsessed with fixing myself.

    I still am, although I’m now very close to the finish line. It’s my goal to be completely pain-free by the end of 2019, so I’m getting serious about my recovery. Wish me luck!!

    This posture corrector has helped me SO much along the way.

    Bad Posture Corrector » From the Infinite Embers blog

    I also tried a Lumo Lift for almost a year to help remind me to sit up straight, and I liked it as well, but for me it wasn’t quite enough. Even if you’re standing upright, you can still have your shoulders forward and inwardly rotated (which I did). I needed something more effective.

    When you’re first starting out, it can be exhausting to stand up straight. I didn’t have the strength yet to hold myself upright on my own.

    I should mention that correcting bad posture isn’t going to happen instantly. We’re talking about how your body has trained to move and hold itself (which is largely unconscious) habitually over a long period of time. So you’re going to have to retrain your muscles and mind to a new way of standing, finally allowing yourself to take up space. It’s important to re-strengthen the back body and stretch open through your chest to move your body back into proper alignment, as well as strengthen your core, primarily the transverse abdominal muscle. A physical therapist, personal trainer, or other good body worker can help you with this journey—and so can this brace!

    Bad posture is becoming an epidemic. So many of us struggle with it, largely thanks to technology. We all know that looking down at our phones is bad for our necks, but we all crank our heads down anyway (guilty!). Then we spend hours sitting, which is terrible for our posture. It’s time to fight back and reclaim our bodies’ mobility!

    Bad Posture Corrector » From the Infinite Embers blog

    (Authentic talk: my dog Corgi the corgi‘s fur covers everything I own. Even when I try to clean up for a photo. As you can see if you zoom in on the brace. haha!)

    It’s important to correct bad posture for many reasons:

    • It can cause health problems anywhere along your spine. As the downward angle of the head increases, the pressure on the rest of your spine increases. This causes can build up to bulging disks, herniated disks, etc. No bueno. Also, it’s common to have headaches and neck tension just like yours truly.
    • It affects how well you can breathe. Your ribs need to be able to expand properly in all directions, like an umbrella, when you breathe. Bad posture is like cinching together part of that umbrella and restricting its range. Not being able to breathe fully can cause anxiety, insomnia, and muscle tension. This has been a major battle for me personally, reclaiming my full breath.
    • It conveys an image of low confidence. And interestingly, it can actually CAUSE low confidence! Your brain responds to how your body is positioning itself! (and vice versa, your body responds to your brain’s thoughts and emotions). This TED talk about power poses explains this connection and is also such a good watch. Confidence is good posture: standing up straight, held held high, making eye contact. The more you practice, the easier it gets, and the more confident you’ll become in turn.

    Bad Posture Corrector » From the Infinite Embers blog

    Why I love this Posture Corrector:

    • Because it works. The brace guides your shoulders back and down into place and serves as a gentle, reminding support that reminds you constantly to check back in with your posture.
    • It’s literally only $13, so for an effective health tool, that’s hard to beat.
    • They also offer a full 30 day money back guarantee, so it’s obviously worth trying.
    • It’s super simple to take on/off and adjust. The brace is unisex and fits chest sizes ranging from 28″ to 48″.
    • It’s comfortable! I feel instantly better when I’m wearing it, honestly. It becomes easier to hold myself in good posture, which takes the tension off my neck. The pads also help avoid chaffing/digging into your skin for a comfortable wear.

    I love this thing. I wear it most of the day if I can, especially for all the hours I spend at my computer (I also use a standing desk). In fact, I’m wearing it right now as I write this!

    I’ll admit that this posture corrector isn’t the most discreet—it’s best hidden under looser clothing. But I rock it around town just as-is, on top of my shirt, because who cares, right? My Sunshield draws far more attention, lol. I’d rather feel good than GAF, ya know?

    It’s important to note that it’s possible to over-correct your posture, so you don’t want to cinch the bands too tightly on your brace. You want your shoulder blades to be wide and down, not squeezed back together—think a straight line from shoulder to shoulder, intersecting your neck. Be mindful if you tend to hinge backwards at your shoulder blades and engage your core slightly by pretending someone’s about to punch you in the stomach. That should help you find balanced, perfect posture.

    Bad Posture Corrector » From the Infinite Embers blog

    As with anything in your body, fixing bad posture takes time! So be kind to yourself and stay committed—soon you’ll be standing up tall.

    » Song Vibes «

    (har har har)

    What are some other ways to correct bad posture? Share your tips with me in the Comments below!

    xo,

    Amy

  • Behind The Fitness Industry: The Truth About Life As A Fitness Instructor

    Truth About Being A Fitness Instructor » From the Infinite Embers blog

    Let’s spill the tea on what’s it’s really like to be a fitness instructor for a living.

    The life of a fitness instructor can be super alluring. You’re probably picturing someone working out all day, wearing a uniform of sports bras and leggings, drinking lots of smoothies. And, to be fair, you’d be sort of right. A lot of people dream of leaving behind the standard 9-5 career path to share their love of yoga/spin/barre/etc with the world instead. That’s exactly what I did; I left behind a stable, lucrative career working in television writing to launch into the wild wilderness of teaching. I absolutely LOVE it, and wouldn’t go back—it was the right decision for me. But that doesn’t mean it’s an easy path.

    Being a fitness instructor or trainer is definitely a dream job. But it’s a dream that can be seriously hard to achieve and maintain, and there are real downsides to it, too, that are often hid behind the curtain.

    I would know: I’ve been a fitness instructor for almost 7 years now.

    I mean holy crap! These years have gone by so quickly!

    I got my start teaching barre in 2012 in Los Angeles. I was a television writers assistant at the time, and I was on hiatus between shows looking for work. I’d always been a fitness nut, and after working the front desk of my favorite barre studio for a while, I decided to take a leap and audition to teach.

    My life changed that day! But I didn’t switch to just teaching right away. I wasn’t quite ready to let go of my TV career until I became seriously hurt with a chronic muscle spasm in my right neck/shoulder. Not quite sure how I’d make teaching fitness work as a career, I moved to San Diego and began really focusing on teaching in 2014. I was in constant pain and tension and wanted to learn more about the body so I could heal myself.

    Thus, this blog. And I now teach yoga, spin, aerial yoga, and the Lagree method, because I was/am super hungry for knowledge to help myself and others. I’m also currently studying to get my personal training license!

    Because I’ve taught so many different methods in the industry, I’ve seen it from all sides. I’ve also taught in traditional gym settings, boutique fitness studios, chains, small businesses, even on the beaches of a Disney resort—you name it, I’ve probably done it.

    After all of that, here’s what I know to be true about being a fitness instructor:

    Truth About Being A Fitness Instructor » From the Infinite Embers blog

    It’s one of the most fun jobs in the world.

    Like I said, I absolutely love my career in teaching. For me, there’s no rush quite like when I’m in my element, leading a class.

    Now, obviously, it’s a very different experience depending on what and where you’re teaching fitness. I’m covering a pretty wide umbrella here.

    Teaching Yin yoga at a small studio is a completely different experience than being a bootcamp instructor at 24 Hour Fitness, which is totally different from teaching spin at someplace like SoulCycle. We’re talking difference in expectations, experience/teaching requirements, perks, and pay. So the first thing I want to stress is that everyone will have very different experiences in their careers as instructors. This is not your standard, climb-the-ladder kind of career.

    There is a wide variety of certifications, knowledge, and corresponding pay when it comes to the job of “Fitness Instructor”.

    The title “fitness instructor” is a tricky one because it covers such a wide range of possible careers. Typically, boutique studios require a higher standard of instructors than, say, a large chain gym, since their clients are paying for a premium fitness experience. This means instructors need to be the cream of the crop, and the competition for a spot to teach is often fierce.

    That is NOT to say that studio instructors are better than the ones at gyms! No no, it all depends on the teacher. But studios will usually pay more—and require more of their instructors in return, including ongoing evaluations and trainings. The requirements for every single fitness location are different, which leads to a wide range of experience in a given field.

    Like any career, you have to invest time and (usually) finances for education first. You need to be certified to teach whatever it is you want to teach. Now, some boutique studios will train their instructors in-house and cover the costs. This was actually how I got into barre. I did the studio’s training, and fortunately did not have to pay for it. Same with my first spin studio. But that’s really rare; most types of teaching require you to have an outside source of education before you can start to look for jobs.

    The different possible certifications also (you guessed it) vary widely. You can be certified to teach spin in an afternoon or go through months of training at a studio. Education among instructors varies widely and isn’t really standardized. (Just fyi, personal training is its own thing and I’m not really talking about it in this post)

    To become a great instructor, you must a) teach, over and over and over again and b) seek out knowledge and continuing education constantly. (among other things)

    Being a fitness instructor usually requires entrepreneurship.

    This is actually one of the most appealing parts of this career to me… but it might really deter a lot of people, because I’m telling you now, this line of work is a HUSTLE. A lot of what you get out of this career comes from what you put in it.

    In order to teach fitness full-time, you often have to get creative to make a living. This might mean branching into training private clients or creating classes of your own. It’s really hard to say how much you can make as a fitness instructor, because honestly the sky’s the limit. There’s a big range, which I’ll talk about in a bit. But either way, you usually need to come up with multiple revenue streams in order to create a thriving standard of living for yourself.

    Depending on where you teach, as an instructor you’re almost always working freelance, as an independent contractor. You own your own business. What’s more:

    You ARE your own business.

    Gaining a client following is critical, so it’s helpful if you’re naturally outgoing. You have to market yourself and sell yourself constantly without making it feel like you are. Of course, I find that the best instructors really get to know their clients and connect with them, so that this happens more effortlessly. That’s the best part of the job—my clients are my friends! I feel like authenticity always leads to success.

    But this was a big challenge for me in the beginning—I was introverted, insecure. It wasn’t until I found myself and my confidence that my fitness career really started to take off. Teaching helped: it forced me to get out of my own head and out of my own way!

    Side note: instructors also need to remember that you won’t connect with everyone, you won’t make everyone happy, and you can’t take it personally.

    An active Instagram account/social media presence in this era is KEY to helping fitness instructors stay in touch with clients outside of class. It’s also the best way to keep them up to date on your schedule. I really love Instagram for that reason—it’s where most of my clients choose to contact me (slide into my DMs, y’all!) and gives me a platform to promote events.

    Because you and your personal brand are your livelihood, you have to be adept at wearing multiple hats.

    There’s a big difference between loving fitness and teaching it.

    This is probably one of the most important things I’d like to get across—just because you love working out does not mean you’ll love teaching, because they’re two totally different experiences. A good teacher should have their attention on the clients at all time, not themselves and their own workout!

    To be fair, I mean, with spin, yes, you do the workout with your clients. (And you better be doing it at 150% if you’re asking them for 100%.) Same goes for cardio dance/things like Zumba where participants follow the instructor’s body movements. But even then, as the instructor, you aren’t thinking about getting in your workout for the day. You’re working. And I mean working.

    Fitness instructors have to be masters of multitasking.

    Remembering your class plan, giving cues (and making them good cues), staying on time, watching clients’ form, demonstrating the moves (with perfect form!), managing music/lights/AC… You gotta be a multitasking pro to succeed.

    There’s also a huge performance aspect to teaching: you’re up in front of a crowd of people, with everyone watching you. Your movements must be precise and your personality must be engaging. I used to do dance performances and competitions, and every single time I teach it still feels the same way as stepping out on a stage.

    My secret way to get in the right headspace before teaching is to go into the bathroom and take a Power Pose stance, close my eyes, and breathe. A mini meditation. Because once class starts, it’s not stopping! And no matter what happens in class, you’ve got to be able to roll with it—your music might stop playing, the A/C could go out, you’ll have to kindly ask clients to stop talking (please don’t talk in class, people!)… You must be able to be present, focused, and adaptable.

    Being a fitness instructor requires a lot of physical and mental energy.

    The pressure to be ON can get overwhelming. You know how you have those days where you don’t feel so great and don’t want to work out? Yeah, we have those days, too, but as the instructor you often don’t have a choice—you have to bring your A game, every time. The job requires major stamina.

    There can be a negative pressure in that regard to push yourself too far, because if you don’t teach, you won’t get paid, and many instructors work themselves to exhaustion. It’s easy to forget to give to ourselves, too. I’ve made that mistake time and time again, but am now better about taking breaks whenever I need to preserve my energy.

    Oh, and because we’re independent contractors? The job doesn’t come with health insurance. Which makes taking care of our bodies even MORE important: we must practice what we preach and live healthfully, including taking time to rest.

    Now, even though you’re not exactly working out, teaching IS physical. Demo’ing moves can be very demanding on your body when done in excess over time. This is another thing I had to learn—to teach more with my words instead of my body. Fitness instructors have to be very smart about recovery. That means being sure to find time for stretching, foam rolling, cupping, massages, acupuncture, Epsom salt baths, etc. You’re usually sore, because you’re likely doing your own workouts later in the day too, since teaching doesn’t count.

    Another physical challenge that’s not super obvious is that the job involves a lot of talking.

    Like, sometimes nonstop-for-hours-at-a-time talking. Hopefully, with a mic. But not always, especially in yoga. And you have to project, so people can hear you, and enunciate clearly, so everyone can understand you. Plus, there’s the whole thinking-about-WHAT-to-say bit, which is its own teaching challenge. Effective cueing is an art.

    I manage all that talking with throat coat tea and honey every night. Instructors have to learn how to control your voice as an instrument, like a singer. I have a very distinct “teaching voice”—what my friends have dubbed my “sex phone operator voice” (lol) because it’s a bit lower than my usual tone, smoother, and easier on my vocal cords.

    Instructors must be prepared to receive constant feedback.

    Fitness instructors are subject to constant critique. From ClassPass ratings to fellow instructors who take your class to Yelp reviews to chatter in the locker room—people are going to talk about you and your class. (One of the things I hear the most is “I love your voice” haha! so that lower range appears to be working)

    What’s ironic is that feedback terrified me before I started teaching. As a writer, I was so hurt whenever someone thought my words were less than perfect (um, slow down there with the ego, Past Amy). I often think back and know that my soul gravitated towards teaching because I needed to get over that fear and lack of confidence in order to reach a happier state of being. Because I have!

    Of course, it’s wonderful when the feedback is positive, but everyone will have different experiences. It’s a lot of pressure for new instructors, because you’re evaluated right out the gate. But as with anything, practice, experience, dedication, and a little sweat leads to leveling up, and clients notice!

    Ideally, you refine your craft enough as an instructor that clients love you and you naturally build a following based off the quality of your teaching.

    One of the best parts about teaching: we get to help people get healthier!

    To me, there’s nothing more fulfilling than knowing I helped someone feel stronger, get in a good workout, let go of stress, and reconnect with their own power. It’s an honor to be in that position of influence as an instructor. We get to make the world a healthier place!

    I like to think of myself as a Trainer/Spiritual Guide/DJ/Hype Man. Literally my ideal job description.

    Teaching is incredibly rewarding. You get to make an impact and help people feel better in their bodies.

    Truth About Being A Fitness Instructor » From the Infinite Embers blog

    The pay is… usually not what it should be.

    Well, like I said, this career is best approached from an entrepreneurial mindset. A lot of instructors try to make a living off of just teaching studio or gym classes. This means they’ll teach 10-20 classes a week (exhausting) and are subject to whatever the studios and gyms pay.

    I’ll be honest guys, they usually don’t pay great. Now like I said, there’s a WIDE range of possibilities here, so if you’re reading this because you’re thinking about trying to teach full-time, don’t get discouraged. That said, I strongly believe there’s a big problem in this industry with instructors being underpaid.

    You want to know how much an instructor can make? Well, if you’re teaching at a studio or gym, you’re probably looking in the $20/25 range per class to start, maybe making up to $50/class with experience/if your classes fill up. This goes for almost everything I’ve taught; they all hover in that range.

    The problem is that most people choose to approach teaching fitness as a hobby, or side hustle… to them the money doesn’t matter as much, so there are always plenty of instructors willing to work for less. This has devalued experienced instructors in the fitness industry and led to these low rates.

    Let’s do some math: $30 x 20 = $600/week (yikes). To teach 20 classes you have to do almost 3 a day, or more if you want any days off. They may be 1 hour classes, but the prep work time adds up (which I discuss below) and you’ll usually be driving from one class to the next since it’s hard to find open time slots, let alone blocks of three, at any given gym. So it’s a full day of work.

    Most fitness instructors supplement their teaching gigs with some other job. It’s challenging to branch out into full-time. I’ve found spin at boutique studios pays much more than anything else. Every studio can pay whatever they choose, so again, it’s very hard to give an exact number, no matter what fitness specialty we’re talking about. But in the past I’ve made a max of $150 for a single spin class, which is the highest per-class rate I’ve personally seen. (some bigger companies like SoulCycle even offer full-time positions to their instructors, benefits and all, but those are extremely rare)

    Some studios offer opportunities to grow within their field: you might be able to become a studio manager (or owner!), or become a lead instructor training incoming teachers, or something else if you work for a franchise. That’s another way many instructors choose to take their career to the next level.

    There’s quite a bit of prep work involved in each class.

    First, there’s the actual workout plan. What you’re going to teach. You need to have solid knowledge of the body in order to build out an effective and safe workout. And then you have to memorize it. More experienced fitness instructors, depending on what they’re teaching, might be able to teach a class on the fly. I do this sometimes, to be honest. But it’s never as good as a planned class and I don’t recommend it.

    Unless the music is supplied to you, you also have to create a playlist. Again, one of my favorite parts of the job! But it does take some work to find the right songs to set the mood for each class and then update it continually so clients don’t get sick of hearing the same songs. All told, you can spend up to a couple of hours prepping each class.

    Real growth comes from embracing the personal business aspect of instructing.

    Many instructors branch out into getting private clients, teaching workshops, and creating workout styles of their own. Those are just the obvious ideas: instructors can become as big as Tracy Anderson if they want!

    When you think about it, teaching fitness can potentially have an expiration date. I’ve chosen to put my focus primarily into teaching yoga for this reason, because I can see myself teaching yoga at age 50, but definitely not spin. So it’s smarter to set your future self up for success and build a path for your teaching that you’ll be able to sustain for the years to come.

    Real talk, guys: I’m not there yet.

    This is my ultimate goal, of course, but I’ll be honest, guys: I don’t make enough from teaching to do it full-time now that I’ve separated from my husband. I do freelance social media work to pay rent, and am currently brainstorming ways to increase my income and build out my own business.

    I’ve been thinking about the fitness industry for a while now, the career path of the instructor, and how to make a living from it, which is why I decided to write this post!

    The hustle never stops.

    Fitness instructors really are superstars. It’s a tough job, and they do it! Even though it’s challenging, it’s one of the most fun, exciting, energizing careers out there. Obviously I love teaching and have chosen to stay on this path for a reason. It’s addicting. There is nothing that compares to the high you get after teaching a great class.

    If you’re passionate about fitness and want to dive all-in to making your dream teaching career come true, you can absolutely do it. Just know it will take work. (But don’t all of the best things in life?)

    As with any entrepreneurial journey, if you can tough it out and continue to work hard, being a fitness instructor for a living is a dream within reach. It’s a dream I’m committed to, and I’m excited to see how it, along with my blogging career, unfolds over time.

    Being a fitness instructor has made me happier than I’ve ever been in my life—it really is a dream job!

    Are you considering switching to a job in the fitness industry? Or a current fitness instructor with your own experiences to share? I would love to hear your thoughts about this NOVEL of a blog post in the Comments below!

    xo,

    Amy

  • 10 Minute Yoga Sequence: Chest Stretches

    Chest Stretches/Heart-Opening Yoga Sequence » From the Infinite Embers blog
    Chest Stretches/Heart-Opening Yoga Sequence » From the Infinite Embers blog

    Pretty much everyone needs to be doing some form of chest stretches on the regular.

    Most of us are incredibly tight in our chests. We spend a lot of time curling over desks/phones/laptops, slouching in chairs, or just generally hunching over to work. That’s why these chest stretches are so essential to help maintain good posture and a healthy spine, as well as prevent injury.

    I’ve been working like crazy lately, and when I neglect to do these stretches, I feel the consequences in my neck. Thankfully my standing desk helps me avoid a lot of work pain, but I am notttttt the best at sitting. Like, I genuinely suck at sitting. I didn’t think that was a thing, but all too frequently I find myself twisting into bizarre positions with one foot up on the table and the other in my mouth and WHY can’t I just sit up straight?

    Thankfully, this little yoga sequence of chest stretches helps me re-lengthen all those tightened muscles so I can stand up straight again afterwards.

    Chest stretches also help open the heart.

    I mean this both literally and metaphorically. In yoga, backbends are often referred to as “Heart Openers.” The act of exposing your heart can really help anyone struggling with feeling self-love. It boosts your confidence and allows you to be in a more vulnerable state, more open to receiving healing and clarity.

    Have you ever noticed that when you’re stressed, or scared, or overwhelmed… you cave inwards? Your shoulders round forward. Your head droops. And your back slumps forward. The body has a primal instinct to protect your heart area when you feel under attack, whether from a mountain lion or a pile of bills or an angry boss.

    That’s why opening the heart has incredible emotional benefits as well as physical. These chest stretches are nourishment to both the body and soul.

    Chest Stretches/Heart-Opening Yoga Sequence » From the Infinite Embers blog

    10 Minute Heart-Opening Yoga Chest Stretches

    Try to hold each pose for about 30 seconds-1 minute. Breathe deeply — after all, the breath is the most important part of yoga! Remember to try to find a balance between effort and ease in each pose, and listen to your body. Only go as far as you can, and never push your body beyond your edge — especially when doing backbends.

    Make sure to rest after each pose with your spine long and in neutral. Avoid countering the backbends with a forward bend until after the end of your sequence.

    Keep in mind that as your own teacher, it’s important for you to listen to your body and only do what feels good for you. Please always consult a doctor if you’re just beginning a fitness routine or if you’re at all unsure if you should be doing any of these chest stretches.

    Most importantly: Enjoy this rejuvenating yoga sequence!

    1 » Sphynx Pose, aka Salamba Bhujangasana

    Chest Stretches/Heart-Opening Yoga Sequence » From the Infinite Embers blog

    • Begin by lying down on your stomach.
    • Place your elbows directly underneath your shoulders. Your arms should be parallel, pointing forward, with palms facing down.
    • Reach long through your legs. Press into the ground with the tops of your feet.
    • Tilt your pelvis so you reach your tailbone down towards the ground and back towards your feet.
    • Engage your abdominals.
    • Pull your chest through your shoulders into a backbend.
    • Actively push through your forearms to ensure you stay lifted out of your shoulder joint.
    • Draw your shoulders down away from your ears.
    • Keep your neck long and gaze forward.

    2 » Cobra Pose, aka Bhujangasana

    Chest Stretches/Heart-Opening Yoga Sequence » From the Infinite Embers blog

    • From lying down on your stomach, place your hands directly underneath your shoulders.
    • Reach long through your legs. Press into the ground with the tops of your feet.
    • Tilt your pelvis so you reach your tailbone down towards the ground and back towards your feet.
    • Engage your abdominals.
    • Push through your hands to peel your torso up off of the ground into a backbend. Press into all 10 fingers.
    • Maintain a bend in your elbows. They should be pointing straight back behind you — avoid letting them splay out to the sides.
    • Actively push through your hands to ensure you stay lifted out of your shoulder joint.
    • Draw your shoulders down away from your ears.
    • Keep your neck long and gaze forward.

    3 » Locust Pose, aka Salabhasana

    Chest Stretches/Heart-Opening Yoga Sequence » From the Infinite Embers blog

    • From lying down on your stomach, interlace your hands behind your low back (if that’s not accessible, you can also have your arms long by your sides).
    • Tilt your pelvis so you reach your tailbone down towards the ground and back towards your feet.
    • Engage your abdominals.
    • In one motion, lift your chest, arms, and legs up as high as you can.
    • Use your glutes to try to lift your legs higher. Reach long through your toes.
    • Try to squeeze your legs towards each other so they stay parallel (it’s helpful to squeeze a block between your upper inner thighs as you do this).
    • Draw your shoulders down away from your ears.
    • Keep your neck long and gaze downward.

    4 » Bow Pose, aka Dhanurasana

    Chest Stretches/Heart-Opening Yoga Sequence » From the Infinite Embers blog

    • From lying down on your stomach, bend your legs.
    • Reach back with both hands to grab hold of the outside edges of your feet or ankles.
      • NOTE: If you cannot reach, no worries, just do another round of Locust pose.
    • Tilt your pelvis so you reach your tailbone down towards the ground and back towards your feet.
    • Engage your abdominals.
    • In one motion, lift your chest, arms, and legs up as high as you can.
    • Use your glutes to try to lift your legs higher.
    • Try to squeeze your legs towards each other so they stay parallel (it’s helpful to squeeze a block between your upper inner thighs as you do this).
    • Draw your shoulders down away from your ears.
    • Keep your neck long and gaze forward.

    5 » Cow Pose, aka Bitilasana

    Chest Stretches/Heart-Opening Yoga Sequence » From the Infinite Embers blog

    • Slowly press yourself onto all fours.
    • Position your hands directly underneath your shoulders, and your knees directly underneath your hips.
    • Lift your sitting bones and chest toward the ceiling, lowering your belly toward the ground.
    • Actively push through your hands to ensure you stay lifted out of your shoulder joint.
    • Lift your head to look straight forward.
    • This is a nice passive pose.

    6 » Camel Pose, aka Ustrasana

    Chest Stretches/Heart-Opening Yoga Sequence » From the Infinite Embers blog

    • Curl your toes under and rise up to kneeling.
    • Keep your knees hips-distance. Your shins should be parallel.
    • Rest your hands on your sacrum (the back flat part of your pelvis) with fingers pointing down.
    • Use your hands to help you lightly tilt your pelvis forward so that your tailbone points down towards the ground.
    • Keep the front of your pelvis engaged as well by pressing your thighs back.
    • Reach long through the top of your head to lengthen your spine.
    • Lift your heart and press your shoulder blades against your back ribs.
    • Leading with your heart, begin to bend backwards.
    • Stop wherever you reach your edge (you may opt to stay right here with hands supporting your pelvis).
    • If you can reach, take each hand off of your pelvis one at a time, and reach down to grab hold of your ankles. Use that anchor to open your heart even more.
    • For an even more advanced option, try this pose with feet flat, the tops of the feet pressing firmly into the ground.

    7 » Fish Pose, aka Matsyasana

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    • Lie down on your back.
    • Keep your legs long and in parallel.
    • Form a diamond with your hands by bringing your pointer fingers to touch and overlapping your thumbs, with palms facing down underneath you.
    • Slide the diamond underneath your pelvis. Rest your booty on your hands throughout this pose.
    • Position your elbows so they are tucked tight against your torso (aim to have them be shoulder’s distance or slightly closer).
    • Push through your forearms to slowly lift your heart up towards the sky into a backbend.
    • Allow your head to release back towards the ground.
    • If you can lift high enough, lightly rest the top of your head onto the ground. (There should be minimal pressure on the head to protect your neck.) Otherwise, you’ll allow the back of your head to rest onto the ground instead.
    • Activate your legs by reaching long through your heels or toes (depending on whether you prefer your feet pointed or flexed).

    8 » Lord of the Dance Pose, aka Natarajasana

    Chest Stretches/Heart-Opening Yoga Sequence » From the Infinite Embers blog

    • Rise up to standing.
    • Press down evenly through all four corners of your R foot.
    • Bend your L leg.
    • Reach down with your L hand.
    • Rotate your L shoulder so your palm faces outwards. Grab the inside edge of your foot.
    • Raise your R arm overhead, alongside your ear.
    • Tilt your pelvis forward so you reach your tailbone down towards the ground.
    • Engage your core.
    • Begin to lift your L foot up and away from you.
    • Stretch your R arm forward and gaze forward over your fingertips.
    • Try to keep your torso relatively upright.

    9 » Repeat Lord of the Dance on the L Side

    10 » Rest in Savasana

    • Lie down on your back. (If you prefer to rest in another pose, please feel free!)
    • Close your eyes.
    • Let your body be heavy.
    • And enjoy the effects of your self-loving back-bending efforts!

    If you feel like you need a counter-stretch, try Child’s Pose or Cat Pose to help balance out your back.

    Do you find backbends easy or difficult? Do you know of any other good chest stretches? Let me know in the Comments below!

    xo,

    Amy

  • What’s The Most Effective Workout?

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    What Type Of Workout Should You Do » From the Infinite Embers blog

    Lean in closer, guys — I’m about to reveal the secret of the most effective workout. Because there really is a trick to exercise that most people don’t know.

    I get asked about this all the time, by both experienced fitness junkies and beginners. And I know that right now is when a lot of us are diving into our New Year’s Resolutions. If you’re just starting to develop a workout routine, the amount of options can easily become overwhelming. There are so many different ways to exercise – from Zumba to spin to running to barre. These workouts all promise to get you into shape, melt fat, strengthen + tone muscle, improve mobility, and help you feel great. So how do you know where to invest your time and energy to ensure you get the most effective workout possible every time you exercise?

    Let’s get one quick thing out of the way:

    Any form of movement is going to be beneficial.

    Well, okay, obviously certain movements can and do hurt your body — like, don’t throw yourself against a wall. I’m using common sense here and expect that you are, too — along with a certain level of mindfulness. If you’re just beginning to work out, I highly encourage you to get help from a personal trainer for a few sessions, or invest in some form of private lessons. Or attend group classes with knowledgable instructors, so that you can learn proper alignment and how to work out correctly. In the very least, watch some tutorial videos on YouTube (like on my channel).

    Exercises can hurt you if not performed correctly, so if you’re ever not sure about something, ask! (You can always comment or reach out to me on social media for help.)

    (Quick side note: Honestly, I’m not the biggest fan of Crossfit because the potential for injury is pretty high — but that’s a rant for another time. If you happen to love Crossfit and do the exercises correctly, you can definitely gain a lot of strength… just be cautious.)

    But first and foremost, know that if you’re doing some kind of physical activity, you’re doing your body good. We’re born to move. We aren’t meant to sit stationary at our desks and chairs and couches all day, as most of us do. The human body is designed to perform all sorts of movements, and it functions best when it gets the chance to show off all the cool things it can do.

    What Type Of Workout Should You Do » From the Infinite Embers blog

    You should be moving every single day.

    This is step one. Get some form of movement in. Every. Goddamn. Day. Make sure at least one day a week is very light movement (like yoga) to give your body a break, but the first goal here is just to make movement a more natural part of your routine overall. The most effective workout is one that actually happens, after all.

    Don’t give me any excuses about not having enough time – 5 minutes of jumping jacks is enough to get your heart rate up and can be done during the commercial breaks when you’re watching Hulu. Obviously, I think your body is worth a little more time than that, so I recommend at least 15 minutes of sustained activity every day, even if it’s a simple walk during your lunch break. That’s a great place to start. Enter a workout schedule for the week into your calendar every Sunday and commit to those times like you would any other appointment.

    Okay, so the first step to finding your most effective workout routine is committing to it. But if you’re still not sure what to do, here’s the short answer:

    Do whatever workout you actually enjoy.

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    Seriously. If you find some sort of activity that feels fun, you’ll be way more likely to stick to it.

    So think about what motivates you: If you like making friends and meeting people outside of work, join a soccer league. If you love to shake it at the club, enroll in a dance class. If you’re super competitive, head to Orange Theory. You get the idea.

    Just find something that doesn’t feel like suffering. If there are moments where you aren’t thinking about the workout at all, and you’re just having a good time, then you’ve found your very own ideal fitness match.

    Granted, there will still be moments of suffering. Working out is about pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone, which can be, well — uncomfortable. You just need to not hate it, you know? And extra bonus points if you find you really like it. Remember that working out gets better and more enjoyable the more you do it, so stick with it.

    But what if you’re working out regularly and still not seeing results?

    Like I said above, I frequently get asked about this by many people who already have a steady exercise routine but feel like they’re hitting a plateau in their fitness. I was this person, once. In college my main form of exercise was to run for 30 min, do ab work, and stretch. I did this every day. And yet, I was, well… really weak.

    Working out more is not the solution, by the way. Taking double spin classes or running from barre to yoga to Pilates class every single day is a recipe for burnout and possibly a disordered addiction to exercise. As a fitness instructor, I have to work out a lot. I’m totally a crazy person and love it and my ideal day involves me being very active… but I’ve found that in those stretches of times where I worked out the most, I was actually my physically weakest. At a certain point your body starts to compensates for all that extra wear and tear and it just leads to injury and illness.

    Work smarter, my friends, not harder.

    What Type Of Workout Should You Do » From the Infinite Embers blog

    So here’s what you’ve really been waiting to hear. If you want to get even more out of your workouts, let me tell you the secret to ideal fitness:

    If you’re really serious about getting results, the most effective workout routine includes 3 things: cardio + strength training + some form of active recovery.

    Yes, you need all them. Consider it the Holy Trinity of Fitness.

    In all likelihood, you’re not getting the right balance of these three workouts. For most people, the real problem is cardio (which, FYI, is exercise that increases your heart rate for an extended period of time). It makes you sweaty and uncomfortable in ways strength training just doesn’t. But I promise you can do it — it just comes down to finding a type of cardiovascular movement that works for you.

    It’s also super common for people to only do cardio and neglect strength training — and most people don’t even think about recovery. But you need to stretch, do some yoga, foam roll, etc ideally every day to let your body get the most benefits from the cardio and/or strength training you do.

    You can do cardio and strength training all in one day, but I generally prefer to alternate them and double up once in a while to shake my body into high gear. I also make sure to do some kind of yoga every day.

    Cardio + Strength Training are both important components of the most effective workout regimen because they challenge your body differently.

    The Low-Down on Cardio

    » Helps you live longer

     » More effective at burning fat

    » Can help raise good cholesterol + lower your bad cholesterol

    » Improves your immune system

    » Can help reducing stress

    The Low-Down on Strength Training

    » Helps prevent injuries

    » Improves functional strength and mobility

    » Evens out imbalances in the body

    » Makes you better at your cardio of choice

    » This is pure vanity, but we tend to like the look of toned muscles

    I mean, I don’t know about you, but I say why do only one when you can get all the benefits listed above?!

    Do them on different days or combine them for a killer workout (do your strength training first and you’ll burn more calories during your cardio) — whatever keeps you committed to your workout routine.

    What Type Of Workout Should You Do » From the Infinite Embers blog

    Also – keep things spicy and mix up your workouts as often as you can.

    You guys know that for cardio I personally love spin (I mean it really is the most fun thing I do), and before that I was a longtime dancer and runner, as I mentioned above. But the cardio I dread? Swimming. I suck at it, and I gulp water while gasping for air, and the pool chlorine makes my skin itch. But I still do it from time to time, just to test my upper back strength and to shake my body out of its comfort zone.

    Every time you push yourself out of that comfort zone, you grow. The most effective workout routine is one that involves variety, commitment, and focus. With time, you’ll find that you grow stronger not just physically, but mentally and emotionally, too, as you prove to yourself just how strong you really are

    Aim to move and push yourself whenever you can, and you’ll get your body into the best shape possible.

    What’s your favorite type of workout? Any workouts you hate (seriously I’m just the worst at swimming)? Share with me in the comments!

    xo,

    Amy

  • Advice For Your 20s From My 30 Year Old Self

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    Advice For Your 20s » From the Infinite Embers blog

    I just turned 30 — and boy, I have a lot of advice for your 20s now that I’m on the other side.

    My birthday was on November 27, and if you didn’t guess before that I’m a Sagittarius, well, now it should all make sense. I mean, I named my blog so it would contain a fire theme. I’m very much an Archer cliché, and I love it. (I grew up knowing nothing at all about astrology, by the way, but when I first learned about my sign I mean it really was too creepily accurate to deny) Anyway, turning 30 made me realize that I really have grown a LOT since I was 20 years old. We’re all on our own journeys and will learn our own lessons in time, but I do wish I could go back and tell myself some life advice to save myself a great deal of heartache. Alas, I do not have a time machine, so I’ll give you guys my advice for your 20s instead.

    The first thing I want you to know is: age doesn’t matter. I don’t really mind that I’m now in my 30s. I’m the fool who will bust out dancing while waiting in line in the DMV if I hear a good song playing faintly in the distance, and I have no plans to “act my age” any time soon. My friends better be willing to not care what people think if they’re going to hang out with me, because I refuse to let go of my joy. I’ve never been able to picture myself as an “adult,” though, and that holds true even now as I enter a new decade of life.

    Age is entirely what you make of it. It really is just a number.

    Part of why I care so much about health, wellness, and fitness is that I want to feel youthful for as many years of my life as possible. I want to be able to dance and rock out on a spin bike and give my 100% to all areas of my life for as long as possible! It’s not so much a Peter Pan syndrome as a refusal to let go of that childlike ability to PLAY and wanting my body to be strong enough to let me do as much as I want.

    Maybe I took all the Disney movies of my childhood too much to heart, but I refuse to “grow up” and let the stressors of life wear me down so much that I forget how to have fun. Yeah, being an adult sucks. I’m stressed out all the time about shit like paying bills, saving for retirement, cleaning the kitchen. But you can’t let life and its many hardships, both minor and major, harden you. That’s what, in my opinion, actually ages you. Stress is a damaging SOB.

    I admit I let life bring me down way too much in my 20s.

    As weird as it sounds, I actually feel younger now that I did in my 20s. Miley Cyrus totally captured it. It’s like I finally went through enough hardship that I woke back up. I now realize I’m going to absolutely love my 30s, because I finally feel like myself. Unapologetically, authentically myself. It’s like taking a cleansing deep breath at the end of a very long run. Ahhh.

    Advice For Your 20s » From the Infinite Embers blog

    My inspiration for growing up comes from two incredible women I’ve had the honor to work with through my teaching career. The first was a woman who regularly came to my aerial yoga classes in San Diego. The second was one I taught SUP yoga to at a resort out here on Oahu. Both of them were doing a unique physical activity that is intimidating to most people. I can’t even convince most of my friends to do these things with me. But more importantly, both of those women are in their 80s. Their fucking 80s, you guys!

    Want to know what they both had in common? They were two of the most ambitious, positive, and grateful people I’ve ever met. So as life teaches you its tough lessons, remember that the most important one of all is to find and hold onto your joy.

    I hope that this list of advice for your 20s helps during this exciting, crazy decade of yours.

    Let’s dive in to all the things I wish I could tell my past self, beginning with the most important one of all:

    1 » Don’t Care What Anyone Thinks

    Ah, yes. We all know this little gem. So simple and yet so mind-blowingly complicated at the same time. This may be one lesson that you really do need to learn on your own, because it comes from within. Not caring about other people’s opinions about you or your beliefs has to be a decision that you make, from a place of truly loving and knowing yourself.

    So if you’re not there yet, perhaps the better advice would be to TRY to not care what anyone thinks. Make that your goal. Whenever you find yourself worrying about how you look or whether or not so-and-so likes you, remind yourself that you want to be the kind of person that’s so secure in yourself that outside opinions don’t matter. Challenge yourself to not care as often as possible.

    That’s what I did. I used to be so cripplingly self-conscious that I could rarely speak my truth and was always afraid that others were judging me as harshly as I judged myself. So I made myself as uncomfortable as possible and became a fitness instructor, where I was subjected to constant criticism (both constructive and otherwise) and forced into a position of authority. And honestly guys, for the first couple of years, I felt sick every time I had to teach a class. I would tell myself was that I was ugly/stupid/a bad teacher and everyone would hate me/my clothes/my music/etc. I’m not exaggerating. I had like 0% self-esteem. But I didn’t want to be the victim of those horrible self-doubts and negative thoughts anymore, so I kept at it. And after a particularly brutal experience where I was fired unfairly a light inside of me finally cracked open, and I really no longer gave a single fuck.

    And let me tell you… it feels even better than you imagine. So don’t worry. You’ll find your confidence as long as you keep searching for it.

    2 » Try As Many New Things As You Can

    This ties back to getting as uncomfortable as possible as often as possible, which will help you GROW. It’s how your life elevates from painful to powerful. Say YES.

    Experience as much of this enormous, complicated, beautiful world as you can. Try new foods, travel to new countries, take an art class even if you’re best at stick figures. Move a few times. Test out a couple different career paths. Accept the invitations. Life is best when it’s actually LIVED, and that doesn’t happen when you’re surrounded by what’s familiar and what’s comfortable.

    Basically, never stop exploring and learning. There’s no reason for this to stop now that you’re no longer a child — in fact, new experiences will help shape and solidify you and make you your best self.

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    3 » But Make Sure You Take Time To Slow Down, Too

    There’s a big difference between conscious adventuring and distracting yourself from your real problems. Like, by all means, go to raves — but maybe not every weekend? Slowing down and taking time to recover and care for yourself is essential to healthy living. Block out days where you get time by yourself to do absolutely nothing “productive” and instead just focus on how you feel. These moments of quiet are when self-reflection happens, when your brain critically reviews all above the above experiences you’ve had and then decides what they mean for you. This is where you get to meet yourself.

    And don’t feel bad about it! Like I said, taking some quiet time is essential, and something you’ll benefit greatly from if you begin this habit early in life.

    Oh, by the way — put down your damn phone once in a while. It’s just another distraction from real life.

    4 » Get A Pet

    Seriously! Having a pet is not only just awesome because duh — they’re adorable and fun, but they also teach you about how to handle the responsibilities of life in general. But in a gentle way, one that you don’t mind, because you’re doing it from a place of love.

    I got my first dog, Corgi (yes he’s a corgi named Corgi, see #1), when I was 25 years old. I’m not kidding when I say he changed my life. I fell completely head over heels in love with him. But at the same time, he also was is very much a headache. For the first couple of years of his life, we were constantly in and out of the vet. He was always sick (don’t worry, he’s very happy and healthy now that we know he’s allergic to lots of things). And he demanded a lot of my time and energy, because I had to train a puppy with no knowledge about how exactly to do that. But I happily dove headfirst into the role of Dog Mom and rose to the challenge of being responsible for another life. And, in turn, my own life became so much richer.

    Animals require time, energy, daily activity, food, cleaning, and cleaning up after. They also require a lot of love. And I’m telling you, all that love makes the work totally worth it, if you make the choice to bring a pet into your life responsibly. Think of it as a trial run in parenting if you hope to have children later and don’t already.

    5 » You Don’t Need To Worry About Having It All Together

    It’s true: adulting is hard. But it’s okay to change your mind. It’s okay to fail. It’s okay to make mistakes. So let yourself off the hook a little. Experiencing setbacks is a part of life. Do your best, learn and grow and lead with love and you’ll be alright.

    Avoid making decisions out of fear. I know there’s a lot that’s uncertain and a lot of problems that you’ve never faced before. But believe in yourself and know that you are strong enough to handle whatever life throws at you. You’ll always come out ahead if you act out of faith in yourself rather than fear of what could be.

    And don’t be afraid to ask for help, no matter what the situation. You’re never alone.

    6 » But You Do Need To Worry About Money

    In your 20s, it can be easy to fall into the trap of thinking you’ll pay off your credit card debt “someday” or not worrying about retirement — because your older years seem so far away. But time moves quickly. I fell victim to this trap and am still paying the price (literally).

    I’m not about to even try to offer financial advice here, but there is a strong connection between your financial health and your emotional/mental health… which (as you may have learned through this blog) in turn affects your physical health. It matters.

    But yeah, you guys, I’m not going to bullshit you. It sucks. It’s boring as hell. It takes some work to learn about finances. Most of us enter adulthood with minimal understanding about how to properly manage our money, so it’s on you to read up and suit up. I recommend the books Rich Bitch and How to Be Richer, Smarter, and Better-Looking Than Your Parents. They’re not painfully boring to read, and they’ve been useful resources for me as I try to clean up my own …situation.

    Do as I say, children, not as I do.

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    7 » If A Situation Isn’t Working, Get OUT

    This was a hard one for me to learn. You can’t control other people. You can only control yourself. So if you’re in an environment that is toxic, whether that be a bad job, a relationship where you feel held back, or a one-sided friendship, the best thing to do is leave.

    Don’t try to ignore the problem or hold out hope that the situation or person will someday change. They might, in time, but if and when are entirely up to them. You have to do what’s right for YOU and protect yourself and your joy.

    Trust your gut and your body. If you’re not happy, or you feel that pit in your stomach, or you feel drained… you gotta go. I know it’s hard. I know you wanted it to be so different than what it is. I know you’re terrified that your entire life will fall apart if you don’t have X anymore.

    But guess what? It WILL fall apart if you stay.

    8 » Care For Your Body Like It’s Already 80

    This piece of advice for your 20s is essential because I know that right now it feels like you’ll be young forever. And you will be! But you’ll want your body to be able to hang right along with your youthful spirit even when you’re older, and the choices you make right now will in part determine just how healthy that future body will be.

    So yay! You’re reading my blog. That’s a perfect first step — learn as much as you can now about how to care for your body. Give a shit about your health. Be the example for your peers. Workout, eat healthy whole foods, sleep your 7-9 hours every night, don’t overdo it with the fun but unhealthy stuff, reduce your stress, and develop a mindfulness practice. It may sound lame, but I’m telling you — it’s the key to finding the real fountain of youth.

    Pay attention to your body. Develop a strong relationship with it now and love it well, because it will be with you for the rest of your life.

    9 » Stop Comparing

    Easier said than done, right? There’s a common saying you might be familiar with, but it’s worth repeating here just in case:

    Comparison is the thief of joy.

    Fuck no I’m not letting something steal away my joy! And you shouldn’t, either. Besides, you can never really know everything about a person’s life, so it’s really just a practice in self-punishment to torment yourself by comparing their X to your Y.

    Stay in your own lane and worry about you doing you the best damn way you can.

    10 » Staying In Touch Is An Art You Need To Master

    You’re a little spoiled right now, dear 20-something. It’s not your fault. But up until now you’ve been pretty spoiled when it comes to making friends.

    School gave you instant daily access to a large pool of your peers. Even if it didn’t feel like it, the deck was stacked in your favor when it came to making friends. So many opportunities to find like-minded people in a similar stage of life!

    I say this with a slight tone of resentment because, honestly, making friends post-college is a shitshow. You have to hope you can find some cool people in your place of work or at the barre studio you workout at every Monday night or through friends of friends of cousins that you have nothing in common with but hey! they live in the same city as you and you’re desperate for human connection.

    So you’d do well, young one, to learn how to protect your friendships as you transition from adolescence to adulthood. You and you friends will probably all scatter throughout the country. And then you’ll start to couple up, settle down, start families. You’ll get overwhelmed with work and with picking up the dog poop. And it can be very, very easy to let those friendships fall to the wayside to die a slow, painful death.

    If you want to stay friends with someone, you gotta do some work. You have to communicate regularly and have meaningful check-ins. Use Snapchat, text, Instagram, etc… but you better also make sure you fit in time for phone calls or in-person interactions, because those other easy forms of communication simply can’t sustain a relationship long-term.

    Essentially, don’t forget the ones who matter.

    11 » But So Is Letting Go Of Energy Vampires

    Unfortunately, not everyone you used to love is going to be someone worthy of your love later on down the line. You’ll know the difference. See #7.

    You never need to maintain a relationship with anyone solely out of obligation, like because they’re family or have been your best friend since elementary school. Family loyalty is noble and all, but not everyone’s families are beneficial, and plenty actually consist of destructive or abusive relationships. And it really does hurt to let go of someone you were super close to in the past… but if you don’t feel uplifted, supported, and seen (or worse, if you feel truly hurt) by someone in your life, they don’t need to be in your life. Plain and simple.

    And be picky about the new people you choose to let into your life. Let people into your inner circle who fill you up instead of deplete you, and who love you for YOU.

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    12 » Don’t Rush Into Romantic Relationships

    Everyone’s going to be coupling up right now, especially in the early years post-college. Don’t even worry about it.

    There’s a weird societal pressure to marry sometime in your 20s, and if you want to have a family, it does sincerely become a major concern. But relax. You can’t force the right person to come along exactly according to your constructed ideal timeline. And if you try to force it in any way and settle into a relationship or marriage too soon because you think it’s the “right” time to settle down or because you’re scared you won’t be able to have children when you’re older, you’ll have to live with the potential negative consequences.

    You don’t want to wake up 10 years from now realizing you aren’t happy with the partner you chose and the life you’ve created so far with them, and then have to go through the painful process of separating.

    Your 20s is a time for some MAJOR self-discovery. (And you thought you were all grown up, didn’t you?) You will likely be a very, very different person when you turn 30 than when you were 20. So give yourself the space to be single and focus on learning about you and the kind of life you want to live. Then you can decide if someone fits well into that life. Or if you’re already with someone, make sure you’re communicating with each other openly and honestly as you both experience life separately and together.

    Don’t be with someone just to avoid being alone, and don’t date people who aren’t worthy of you. Think of your 20s as the decade to love the shit out of yourself first and foremost. Then if you can do that while in a relationship? By all means, commit away.

    13 » Work Through Your Childhood Baggage

    Yup, you’ve got some. Everyone does! And not dealing with it will only damage you further.

    The hope is, that in time, you can find a sense of peace about your childhood. A lot of the growing up process during your 20s is about learning how to let go of that pain so that the past no longer wounds you. Go to therapy, read self-help books, journal… whatever you need to process what happened so that you can move on.

    Get to know yourself and why you act and react the way you do. Then strive to be the best possible version of you that you can be.

    You can’t undo your past, but you are in charge of how you move forward.

    14 » Sunscreen

    I care about this piece of advice for your 20s so much it gets its own bullet point.

    Wear sunscreen. You don’t wear enough of it. Trust me. Wear more. I wear this kind on my face every day and use this for my body. AND GET OUT OF THE SUN. It’s not only bad for the health of your skin, but it’s the #1 thing that you can easily control that will age you the fastest.

    And don’t just worry about your face: you need to protect all of your skin. The skin on your hands, chest, and neck is super thin and fragile, so pay extra attention to those areas. I wear these driving gloves and I look a little crazy, but again, see #1.

    I’m not encouraging you to worry about how you look — but you certainly don’t need to get preventable skin cancer. And I just know I’d prefer to age naturally but, you know… slowly. When you’re in your 20s, this isn’t something you’re likely thinking about because your skin probably isn’t showing any signs of wear yet… but again, a lot can change in 10 years. Trust me on this.

    15 » Get Ready To Learn Who You Really Are

    Society holds onto this odd myth that as soon as we reach the age of 18, or 21, or whatever, that we’re somehow done growing up. But you’re really only just beginning.

    Be patient. Know that you will change a lot over the next 10 years. So will all of your peers. And you get to decide if you take the path towards self-improvement, self-discovery, and self-love …or the other route that leads to settling, complacency, and bitterness.

    I think it’s pretty clear which path you’ll want to take.

    The goal of your life is simple: Go find your joy. Then share it with the world.

    March on, you bright young thing. The world can’t wait to see what you become.

    Also, this kind of seems like a fitting theme song, doesn’t it?

    What advice for your 20s do you wish you could give your past self? Share them with me in the Comments below!

    xo,

    Amy

    This post is not sponsored, but there are affiliate links throughout this post, all for stuff I genuinely love and recommend!

  • 5 Uses For Coconut Oil That Have Nothing To Do With Eating It

    Non-Cooking Uses For Coconut Oil
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    Uses For Coconut Oil That Have Nothing To Do With Eating It » From the Infinite Embers blog

    I’m super excited to tell you all about coconut oil uses that don’t involve cooking—

    —But before we talk coconut oil: Hi guys! How was everyone’s Thanksgiving? Mine was quiet; just me, my husband, and the animals here in our home on Oahu. I’m actually vegan (Matt’s vegetarian) so our Thanksgiving feast is a little different than the average spread and is SO freaking good. (Matt does all the cooking, because, well, I have a tendency to burn things.) He made a chickpea and spinach tart for our main course, with sides of grilled vegetables, mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce, and of course pumpkin pie — all vegan and super good for you. And trust — the chickpea tart (we use this recipe from Plant Powered Kitchen) will satisfy even the pickiest meat lovers (it’s been a hit at Friendsgivings) and tastes exactly the way the holidays should!

    Anyway, we cook a lot with coconut oil, since it’s often a perfect vegan replacement for butter, especially when baking (although as with any fat, you want to limit your intake). You’re probably familiar with coconut oil for cooking, but that’s just a tiny peek at all it can do.

    Coconut oil kind of has super powers.

    Oh yeah. I honestly can’t think of a more versatile food, actually. Coconut oil has antioxidant, antibacterial, and antimicrobial properties, making it a wellness superstar.

    One thing I want to clarify before we take a look at the list: you ideally want an unrefined, organic, cold-pressed, virgin coconut oil for all these uses. I like to use this kind from Nutiva and buy the giant tubs off Amazon using Subscribe & Save (super budget-friendly), but any brand will do as long as you check the labels. (This post isn’t sponsored, it’s just genuinely the kind I use.)

    The most important thing to look for is that unrefined label, since the refining process reduces the number of polyphenols and medium-chain fatty acids available in the coconut oil. These compounds are what offer the antioxidant and anti-inflammatory benefits of coconut oil, so it’s pretty important to go unrefined, especially when using it on your body. I mean, otherwise, what’s the point? You want as much goodness as you can get.

    Uses For Coconut Oil That Have Nothing To Do With Eating It » From the Infinite Embers blog

    Okay, so now that you’ve got your awesome-smelling raw coconut oil in hand, what to do with it? Let me show you the ways…

    1 » Makeup Remover

    I take off all my eye makeup with coconut oil! But you probably don’t want to use coconut oil all over your face, especially if you have acne or rosacea. Coconut oil is comedogenic, which means it could potentially clog pores. But for eye makeup, including even the trickiest of waterproof formulas (which I live and die by as a fitness instructor), nothing beats it.

    Simply coat your fingertips in the coconut oil and rub them together until it liquifies. Then very gently massage the coconut oil onto your eyelids (pulling can lead to wrinkle creation over time). Swipe a cotton round over your eye, and voila! Makeup gone. And for far cheaper than traditional makeup remover formulas! Of course not dumping chemicals all over your sensitive eyes is also a major plus, no?

    2 » Body Lotion

    Use Coconut Oil Instead of Lotion to Moisturize Your Skin » From the Infinite Embers blog

    I use coconut oil in lieu of body lotion. Unrefined coconut oil’s natural antioxidant properties makes it highly effective at preventing wrinkles and soothing skin irritation. It feels so good and gives you a sexy glow. Definitely a must for those of you in colder, drier climates this winter, as coconut oil is perfect for dry skin and possibly mild eczema thanks to its antibacterial properties. And for those of us in more tropical zones, it’s ideal for post-sun skin recovery (but please make sure you’re wearing sunscreen no matter what). It also helps fight free radicals that can lead to skin damage and aging. Coconut oil absorbs quickly and is just as effective at hydrating skin as other (more expensive) traditional moisturizers, as shown in this study from the National Center for Biotechnology Information.

    However, like I said above, if you’re prone to acne on your body, you probably don’t want to use coconut oil in those areas. I can get mild acne flare-ups on my back, so I just use coconut oil everywhere else, where I never break out.

    I slather coconut oil all over immediately after stepping out of my shower/bath so it really absorbs into the open pores. My dogs caught onto my routine right away and are now always ready and waiting outside the bathroom door whenever I’m finished. They scour the floor looking for any drops I may have left behind, and if that doesn’t work, they’ll come over and lick my legs until I run away screaming because it tickles so much. Thankfully, coconut oil is good for dogs to eat, too, but like humans, in moderation! So I try to keep them at bay, but the pups definitely have a taste for it now (they’re crazy little gluttons). When I was trying to take these photos, my little one Peach would not stay away — thus her cameo appearance on the blog (but isn’t she the cutest?!).

    Coconut oil would also make for an excellent diaper cream, thanks to its moisturizing and soothing qualities. Plus, you can easily use it with cloth diapers along with disposable ones — it washes right out.

    3 » Shaving Cream

    The whole point of shaving cream is to moisturize your skin and create a barrier between it and your razor blades so you have a smooth finish. And yet again, coconut oil is just as good – maybe better? – as its traditional chemical-filled shaving cream counterparts.

    Shave towards the end of your shower or bath, since the warm water helps open up your hair follicles, which will give you the closest shave. Use coconut oil just like you would any other shaving cream: rub it on, shave, rinse the razor, repeat. It can make your shower or tub a little slippery, though, so just be cautious moving around if you don’t have an anti-slip mat. I’ve personally never had trouble with it as long as I make sure to wash all the oil away when I’m done. Easy peasy.

    4 » Hair Mask

    Use Coconut Oil for a Super-Conditioning Hair Mask » From the Infinite Embers blog

    Want soft hair? You *could* go to a salon and fork over a hundred bucks for a fancy treatment. Or, you know, you could just use our favorite ingredient.

    Once again, coconut oil proves it’s an overachiever. It happens to be one of the most effective oils for moisturizing hair. You see, most oils simply coat the hair, but coconut oil actually penetrates inside your hair thanks to its polar triglycerides. It’s super rare for an oil to have these polar triglycerides, and they’re why coconut oil is way better for your hair instead of, say, olive oil. This amazing explanation from Science-y Hair Blog explains it well:

    “Triglyceride components in plant oils can be polar (slightly positively charged) and that allows them to be attracted to the polar (negatively charged) proteins in your hair. Usually oils are non-polar and this is a big difference in chemistry to have an electrostatic (+ and -) interaction versus just having some oil form a film over your hair! This helps those triglycerides be actively pulled through the cuticle-membrane complex over your hair shafts to the inner portions.”

    Oils that penetrate into hair make the hair proteins more hydrophobic (water-repelling). This makes your hair a lot stronger, less prone to split ends, and silkier.

    However, it’s important to remember that all of our hair is different, and that means coconut oil will act differently for everyone. So test it out for yourself. Personally, I notice a huge improvement in my hair’s shine and volume when I use a coconut oil hair mask every couple weeks or so. If you have fine hair like me, you’ll want to use a smaller amount of the oil.

    I leave it on for at least 2 hours, or if you want to be extra, you could leave it in all day in a slicked back bun, or even sleep in your hair mask (wear a shower cap to seal it in and reduce mess). In your next shower, make sure to thoroughly shampoo, condition, and rinse out the oil when you’re ready to reveal your newly luscious locks!

    5 » Lube

    This one is clearly the most fun coconut oil use, no? And yes, we’re going there, because sexual health is just plain health. And I promise you — once you try coconut oil, you will never touch a tube of nasty glue-y drugstore lube again. Ladies, think about it. This shit goes inside your body. Ahem. So maybe take a pass on chemical goop with questionable ingredients?

    Besides. Nothing works as well as plain, ol’ coconut oil. Nothing. It feels just like the real thing, and is a must-try if you experience any dryness or discomfort during intercourse. But don’t take my word for it — feel free to test it out yourself. You can thank me later. 😉

    Want to know the best part? Thanks to coconut oil’s antibacterial and anti-fungal properties (as shown in this study from the American Society for Microbiology and this one from the National Center for Biotechnology Information) it might just be the only lube that’s also actually good for you. It can even help prevent yeast infections. Yes please!

    So what are you waiting for, guys? Buy yourself some and get ready to have your. life. changed.

    Do you know of any other great uses for coconut oil? Please share them with me in the Comments below!

    xo,

    Amy

    This post is not sponsored, but there are affiliate links throughout this post, all for stuff I genuinely love and recommend!

  • My 5 Favorite San Diego Fitness Studios

    San Diego

    San Diego is quickly becoming a major fitness hub.

    In fact, in 2017 San Diego was ranked as the 10th fittest city in the nation according to the American College of Sports Medicine. And yes, a huge portion of that healthy success is due to the incredible weather and easy access to every outdoor sport imaginable. But it’s also clear that San Diego is slowly becoming a major player in the boutique fitness studio scene, as well.

    I’ve been a little absent from the blog this past week due to my gross underestimation of just how much work I can actually physically accomplish in a day. I’m currently in San Diego visiting my husband, who was out there for the month of October for training. I spent a week guest teaching spin and working remotely with my social media job. Now we’re heading to Palm Springs tomorrow to go back to the resort where we got married for a relaxing weekend. I’m so ready — I’ve been hit with some heavy life shit recently and am honestly feeling overwhelmed and in need of a vacation.

    I miss San Diego a lot.

    I just moved to Honolulu (thanks to my husband’s military orders) in March after living in San Diego for three years. I’m not gonna lie, it’s been real lonely over on my little Hawaiian island. There’s a “getting to know you” period when you move where you don’t have a network of friends and have no idea where anything is. I’m finally sort of starting to settle in, get familiar with the layout of Oahu, and explore as much as possible, but it’s just not quite my scene. The vibe is off. It’s absolutely beautiful, but I know it’s not where I belong. I long for California daily.

    San Diego is where I underwent my own personal wellness transformation and became a fitness instructor. I taught at so many of the studios around town. It really feels like home. All my readers from San Diego (and especially those of you that are my former clients!!! xo), I LOVE YOU. Seriously, San Diego is probably the most beautiful and positive city in America. I know Seattle and Portland will argue with me, but San Diego wins in my book. It’s a place where you feel (or you should feel) truly blessed to live there.

    And San Diego’s fitness scene is super impressive.

    San Diego easily has some of the best studios and instructors I’ve ever met. Just based on my personal observations and experiences in the industry (i.e., based on literally nothing but my opinion), I would rank the current order of Top Boutique Fitness Cities as follows: New York, LA, San Francisco, and D.C. Now San Diego is starting to keep up (along with lots of other major U.S. cities) in the fitness scene with those major players.

    Let’s talk about my Top 5 Favorite Fitness Studios to workout at in San Diego.

    And I have to admit: I’m like 1000% biased here. Okay? This is not an objective ranking – but who wants an objective ranking, anyway? I always prefer recommendations from my friends when I need to know where to go. So yes. This is just my biased opinion. Plus I taught at all these studios.

    But I want to explain to you why I loved them all so much that I decided to teach THERE. I took classes at like every studio all over San Diego, so I know the fitness landscape there very, very well. And I fell in love with a handful of studios (I’m pretty picky), so I chose to work for them – and I loved all my experiences there.

    If you live in San Diego or travel there and need a good spot to get an amazing workout, definitely check out these fitness studios!

    1 » PURE Indoor Cycling

    Pure Indoor Cycling » Best San Diego Fitness Studios » From the Infinite Embers blog

    » PURE Indoor Cycling «

    I love my former spin studio! I was able to guest teach four classes at PURE while I was here and it just made my life. This sleek studio in downtown San Diego is the most thoughtfully designed space I’ve ever seen: from the blue lounge chairs to the hair and makeup bar in the women’s restroom, everything has a branded feel that is fresh, cool, and fun. They offer two types of indoor cycling classes: the Rhythm style where you ride to the beat of the music and “dance” on your bike, and Power classes that use a monitor to track your stats in a more traditional spin style. You know I’m the bike party type. 😉 They also have an amazing selection of chic workout attire and spin shoes in their boutique area.  I recommend you go take a class from the owner, Maria — plus, your first class is free if you’re a San Diego resident!

    2 » Trilogy Sanctuary

    Trilogy Sanctuary » Best San Diego Fitness Studios » From the Infinite Embers blog

    » Trilogy Sanctuary «

    This stunning yoga studio/vegan cafe/rooftop boutique/event space is a must-see. It’s like the hidden gem of La Jolla, and it really is a beautiful sanctuary to spend a long afternoon working or take a yoga/aerial yoga class. I did my aerial yoga teacher training from Trilogy and taught in both their downstairs Earth Room and upstairs outdoor aerial deck (my favorite!). The Nachos from their vegan cafe are one of my favorite meals (SO GOOD – those and the Perfect Tacos. I dream about them both.). The whole space is really unique and bohemian and a tranquil healing center that offers so much more than just yoga, including Lyra classes and Open Mic events.

    3 » The Dailey Method

    The Dailey Method » Best San Diego Fitness Studios » From the Infinite Embers blog

    » The Dailey Method «

    When I set out to find a barre studio in San Diego after my former studio Pop Physique closed their SD location, I tried everything: Pure Barre, The Bar Method, Barre3, etc. They were all great, and I got a challenging workout everywhere, but I didn’t quite vibe with any of them until I went to The Dailey Method. I was doing a lot of physical therapy for my neck at the time and was focusing on my spinal alignment and posture. I took a class from Ashley, the owner of the San Diego location, and she explained the typical barre exercises I was already very familiar with in a way that made a lot of them finally click for me. The Dailey Method brand focuses a LOT on alignment, so their instructors are top-notch at gently guiding and correcting students with their form. This means that you really get therapeutic benefits from the workout in addition to a sculpted bod, because you’re working your entire body in a way that makes it look good, but also feel its best, too.

    4 » Elka Yoga & Wellness

    Elka Yoga and Wellness » Best San Diego Fitness Studios » From the Infinite Embers blog

    » Elka Yoga & Wellness «

    Elka Haeckel, the owner of this incredible yoga/aerial yoga studio in Ocean Beach, is the best yoga instructor I’ve ever known. She’s the real deal and such an inspiration to me, which is why I chose to receive my Yoga Alliance 200 hour Yoga Teacher Training from her. It was truly a life-changing decision, and she has been a huge source of inspiration for me throughout my teaching career. Taking one of her classes is a uniquely special experience — she has such a magnetic personality and was the first teacher I ever had who made me actually understand yoga. She incorporates the teachings of yoga with powerful asana practices in a way that is authentic and so transformative. Her Prana Yoga classes are like a choreographed, sweaty yoga power dance. This studio operates 100% from a foundation of love. I adore it and am proud to call it my yoga home!

    5 » Elevate Training 

    Elevate Training » Best San Diego Fitness Studios » From the Infinite Embers blog

    » Elevate Training «

    Okay, if you want the most effective workout literally POSSIBLE, you gotta check out Elevate, which has locations in both Downtown and Solana Beach. It’s a Lagree Method studio, which means they use the Megaformer, an exercise machine that was modeled after a Reformer and made way more efficient. The goal is to work your entire body in 40 minutes (or less) and push all of your muscles to the point of failure as quickly as possible to get the strongest results. And baby, it WORKS. Like, I’m so sad there’s no Lagree studio on Oahu, because in just a month of doing this 1-2x a week your body really strengthens. The combination of isometric contractions and slow movements on the unstable Megaformer platform means that most moves work a majority of the muscles in your body. The instructors play awesome music and are super motivating, so the time goes by in a blink. It’s hard, but there is no comparing the results! They also offer spin classes that are an awesome way to cross-train.

    Okay, I’m off to some hot tubs in Palm Springs to give my sore muscles a little TLC. Be sure to follow along on Instagram to see my travel adventures! I hope I’ll get to come back to San Diego again soon.

    San Diegans — where do you like to workout? Share you favorite studios with me in the Comments below!

    xo,

    Amy

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  • The Best Secret Tool For Pain Relief: The Acupressure Mat

    Why You Should Use An Acupressure Mat » From the Infinite Embers blog

    Acupressure Mat » From the Infinite Embers blog

    My acupressure mat has helped me a LOT as I’ve recovered from debilitating neck pain.

    I have tried just about every back/neck pain tool out there (my credit card can attest to this) in desperation to find relief, so the fact that I say this thing actually works means a lot. There is a huge difference in not just my pain levels but also my stress and focus on the days when I “don’t have enough time” to use my acupressure mat. (I use quotes because, of course, how we spend our time is entirely within our control, but I digress.)

    This so-called “beds of nails” is one of the few health tools that a) you can buy for pretty cheap and b) will actually deliver real, measurable health benefits with every use.

    So what is an acupressure mat?

    Acupressure mats were created in Russia in the early 1980s by Ivan Kuznetzov as a sort of self-acupuncture medical device. Basically, he was trying to create the poor man’s self-acupuncture tool. (I respect the hustle).

    Since he couldn’t use needles to target specific points of the body, he covered a rubber mat with stainless steel office pins and figured when he lay down on it some of those pins would hit the right spots. It was loosely based off the science of acupuncture as well as the literal beds of nails used in some branches of Hinduism and yogic tradition.

    What’s interesting is that Kuznetzov ended up discovering that while the mats weren’t as effective at doing exactly what acupuncture did, they had their own incredible health benefits that were altogether unique. The mats were so effective that the product was quickly mass-manufactured and became a huge success.

    What are the mats’ health benefits? Why do they work?

    The biggest reason is this: because the mats are covered in tiny spikes, a very large surface area of your skin gets stimulated all at once. This stimulation causes tiny reflexes in the skin that produce a flood of endorphins.

    Endorphins make you feel really good.

    You’re probably already thinking this, but in case you need to be reminded of the wisdom of Elle Woods:

    “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands, they just don’t.”

    Like exercise, those tiny spikes give you endorphins, too. So, bonus effect of using your acupressure mat: a happy (and alive!) partner because you’ll be living your best life.

    After your body releases those endorphins, it follows that up by releasing a number of other physiological regulators into the bloodstream such as growth hormone and insulin.

    All you really need to understand is that this is VERY good for your body. A number of diseases are actually linked to abnormalities in the endorphin system, including schizophrenia, epilepsy, Parkinson’s disease, hypertensia, diabetes, PMS, hot flashes, and weight problems.

    I think we can all probably agree that we’d like those endorphins, please.

    Acupressure Mat » From the Infinite Embers blog

    More acupressure mat benefits:

    • Reduces pain
    • Strengthens the liver, spleen and kidney
    • Alleviates headaches
    • Increases energy and decreases fatigue
    • Reduces depression and improves mood
    • Improves sleep and alleviates insomnia
    • Relieves stress and promotes relaxation
    • Eases spinal problems and sciatica
    • Relaxes muscle spasms and cramps
    • Activates the immune system, improving defenses especially against the flu, common cold and asthma
    • Regulates digestion and elimination
    • Promotes healthy blood pressure
    • Improves conditions of cystitis, diarrhea, hemorrhoids, PMS and complicated periods

    » via Reflexo-Therapy With Mechanical Cutaneous Stimulation «

    I mean come on! Is that not a pretty impressive resumé or what? Sign me up!

    How do you use an acupressure mat?

    The best part about these mats is that they give you a ton of benefits for, like, zero work. All you have to do is lie down and relax!

    There are a ton of acupressure mats available to buy online and in wellness stores everywhere, and they’re all basically the same. I use this one from HemingWeigh and highly recommend it. Plus it comes with a handy travel case!

    Most mats come with a comfy neck pillow that provides stimulation along the cervical spine (so key for targeting my neck’s muscle spasms). So, you just lie down so your entire back is on the mat (the neck pillow is optional — my husband prefers to ditch it and just lie flat).

    You want your bare skin to be on the spikes, so you’ll probably want to be somewhere you’ve got some privacy (like, not your office). I like to have a blanket over me because I get cold but you do you.

    By the way — these mats sound a lot scarier than they are. Not many people get a ripple of delight at the thought of lying down on some sharp spikes, no matter how good it may be for our bodies. Understandable.

    But using an acupressure mat does NOT hurt. I promise!

    Now, I’ll be honest with you, I had an interesting reaction the first time I tried using my acupressure mat — I found it so painful I couldn’t bear to lie down for even a few seconds. This, I must re-emphasize, is not normal. Using the mat doesn’t hurt. It’s not the most comfortable thing in the world at first, but it doesn’t hurt. The spikes aren’t sharp. Plus your body quickly settles into it and soon you hardly notice it and just feel amazing, like you’re floating.

    So wait — if it’s not supposed to hurt, why did it hurt?

    My nervous system at the time was completely f*cked. I was addicted to my pain killer prescription. I didn’t meditate at the time, and had only recently discovered yoga. The pain in my neck overshadowed my every waking thought, and I couldn’t get relief. I was a buzzing ball of stress and anxiety and pain.

    My body’s reaction was actually a major wake-up call for me. I did the usual Google research to find out if the mat was supposed to be THAT unbearable — I’ve always had extremely high pain tolerance, so how could anyone stand this? And when I read that the mats aren’t supposed to be painful, I realized just how damaged my body was.

    Acupressure Mat + Corgi » From the Infinite Embers blog

    It turns out that the acupressure mat is exactly what my burnt-out body needed.

    After a couple of months of healing, I finally got brave enough to try my acupressure mat once again. By this point I’d mostly weaned myself off the pain killers and had begun a mindfulness practice, so my body wasn’t quite as fried as before.

    As soon as I lay down, I nearly cried with relief. The mat didn’t hurt. In fact, it felt incredible.

    Since then, I’ve been using it every day, 20 minutes a day. You can start out lying down for whatever length of time you have or feels good, but do try to work your way up to 20 minutes a session to really give your body time to do its thing.

    My secret pro-tip? Try meditating while you’re lying on your mat.

    I actually owe my meditation practice to my acupressure mat. It essentially forces you to into a meditative state, if you let it. You’re still and quiet for however long you choose to lie down, so it makes sense to really dive into that mental state. The awareness of the sensations against your skin are a good guiding tool for your thoughts and help keep you present. Plus, the mats are so relaxing that I find it’s much easier for me to slip into a deeper meditation and focus when I’m on the mat.

    If meditation’s not yet your thing (I’ll make it your thing eventually, don’t worry), I also recommend listening to soothing music or an audio book or podcast you love. Make it a special time for you to honor yourself and actually decompress. Breathe deeply, and try to relax anywhere your body might be holding onto to tension.

    I hope you enjoy your time on your acupressure mat as much as I do.

    » Song Vibes «

    Have you tried an acupressure mat before? Do you have any neck or back pain? Let me know what other tools you’ve used for pain relief!

    xo,

    Amy

    This post is not sponsored, but there are affiliate links throughout this post. I genuinely love these products and know you will, too. Thanks for supporting the blog!

    Photos by Matthew Hanley, edits by me

  • Why You Should Listen To Music That Makes You Happy

    Why You Should Listen To Music That Makes You Happy » From the Infinite Embers blog

    Music helps me set the tone for my day.

    I tend to wake up on the wrong side of the bed 9 times out 10. I’m not the naturally optimistic type, and I’ll admit I really have to give myself a pep talk most mornings to get motivated to greet the day. It takes me some time to get into a positive mindset. One of the first things I do when I wake up is make some warm lemon water, claw my way over to my computer, and turn on some music. My husband knows that for the first hour of the day, he is not allowed to ask me any questions.

    Or else.

    Thankfully (for him! haha), I’ve figured out the best trick to getting my groggy bummer of a mind back in the right space more quickly:

    I listen to music that makes me happy.

    (I know, I’m such a genius. No one has ever thought of this before.)

    But in all seriousness, sadness/anger/any negative emotion loves company. When I’m in a shitty mood, my first impulse is actually to feed that. I LOVE depressing emo music. The slower and more Bon Iver-y, the better.

    …Except not.

    You have to be mindful of the music you’re listening to, and why.

    Why You Should Listen To Music That Makes You Happy » From the Infinite Embers blog

    When you’re trying to pick out a book to read, you mull it over. You read the back cover, maybe a couple reviews, a page or two… It’s essentially like you’re deciding whether or not to start a relationship with that particular book and its contents.

    Same goes for movies/tv shows, even blogs like this one. We tend to be picky about what we give our focus.

    But we don’t pay near as close attention to the music we listen to.

    Many of us decide we like a song pretty much within the first few seconds of listening to it. Usually it has a groovy beat, a sick drop, a certain sound that turns our brain on. But are you actually paying attention to the lyrics?

    The problem with music is that we often use it as background noise.

    Music can keep us company while we work or chill at home. But even though you’re not actively paying attention to all the lyrics, your subconscious is crouched in the back of your brain listening attentively and scribbling down notes.

    A paper published by the University of Pennsylvania found “that lyrics have the potential to increase […] well-being, positive emotions and meaning.” Listen to a positive, encouraging song like “We Found Love” by Calvin Harris + Rihanna, and you transfer that feeling of hope and love into your subconscious.

    But if a song is in the background and the lyrics are all hopeless and despairing… well, it’s kind of impossible to feel any semblance of pep around that.

    Why You Should Listen To Music That Makes You Happy » From the Infinite Embers blog

    I actually caught myself last week in a bad funk. I was exhausted and trying to rally some energy to work, but I was feeling sad. So I naturally turned on some of my favorite mellow songs that are, let’s face it, depressing. I didn’t feel much better.

    So instead, I started playing one of my spin playlists, and the upbeat vibe snapped me out of that negative headspace. So yeah, listening to happy music just makes more sense.

    Let me be clear – I’m not telling you to stop listening to music you love.

    Like, I’ve had “Look What You Made Me Do” on repeat for over a month now. It’s perfect when I just need to VENT.

    But I’m also aware that, like, Taylor Swift maybe isn’t the ideal model for finding lasting peace and happiness? Girl has a lot of enemies.

    I also love profanity (clearly, if you read the blog) and aggressive songs. Oh man, they’re the best to spin to. And that emo music — Death Cab For Cutie will also always be one of my favorite bands.

    The trick is to become conscious about what you’re listening to.

    Positive or negative, listen to your music of choice with purpose. And if you’re in a bad place, maybe DON’T feed that negativity with lyrics that make you sob even harder?

    Music totally sets the mood, and you probably want the mood to be UP.

    I recommend listening to a playlist of your all-time favorite songs. I could listen to Lady Gaga all day, every day because her songs just fill me with LIFE.

    Why You Should Listen To Music That Makes You Happy » From the Infinite Embers blog

    I also have a perfect uplifting playlist ready just to go just in case you need a mood boost like, NOW.

    It’s literally the happiest fucking playlist in existence.

    (If I do say so myself)

    It’s a lot of oldies/goodies and upbeat tempos and positive messages. Seriously, every time I’m feeling down, I just start playing my “Best Day Ever” Spotify playlist and I’m instantly taken out of that dark space. It’s kind of hard not to dance a little, and dancing = total joy.

    If I’m being honest, I’m definitely listening to this playlist as I write this post and swaying back and forth as I type. #standingdeskperks

    I seriously hope you have an awesome day! It’s up to you, so choose your music wisely.

    What helps you cheer up when you have a bad day? Also – do you have a kickass playlist to share? I’m ALWAYS looking for good music!

    xo,
    Amy

  • How To Squat With Correct Form

    How To Do A Squat With Correct Form » From the Infinite Embers blog

    The squat is just always going to be one of my favorite workout moves.

    It’s so simple, yet majorly effective. Squat is also a word that if you think about too much starts to sound really weird. (You’re welcome)

    I make sure to throw in a round of squats at least 3 times a week when I train!

    Why squat?

    Squats are amazing because they’re a functional movement — that is, it’s a movement you do in real life. It’s rare that we’re lunging around our houses, but you know you gotta squat to lift up a heavy box.

    A squat is also a compound movement, meaning it involves two or more joints (hips and knees). It also recruits the majority of your muscles. We tend to think of squats just as a booty-building move (and it will help you build up that #peachbutt), but it involves not just your glutes but also all of your legs, core, hips, and back. Hold a weight in your hands while you do it and it might just work almost every muscle group in your body. Stronger muscles means improved physical health and decreased risk of injury — starting to get why I love squats yet?

    There are of course different variations of squats. For example, if I need to drop down to the ground for some reason (like to play with my dogs), I tend to prefer to hang out in malasana (which is a yoga squat that’s fairly deep), instead of sitting (it’s definitely strange). If you can rest in that position comfortably, it’s way better on your back than slumping cross-legged, even if it does look a little odd. In many countries around the world, especially in Asia, that’s just how they hang out. Walk around Bali and you’ll see lots of vendors chilling a couple feet off the ground. They know what’s up.

    (BTW — you should also be squatting to go the bathroom. But that’s for another post.)

    Today I want to talk about the basic bodyweight squat, since that’s the squat most of us know and love/hate.

    It’s a fitness move you’d think everyone would basically do correctly, but you’d be wrong, my friend.

    I have seen some jacked-up squats when I’ve taught them in my classes.

    So let’s go over correct squat form.

    Here’s the right way to do a standard bodyweight squat:

    How To Do A Squat With Correct Form » From the Infinite Embers blog

    • Stand with your feel slightly wider than hips’ distance and slightly turned outwards
    • Push down through your heels so your weight pulls backwards
    • Bend your knees as you pull your hips back and down
    • Keep your back long and in neutral (low back maintains natural curve)
    • Your pelvis should also stay in a neutral position (no tucking!)
    • Keep your chest broad
    • Engage your core
    • As you sink you hips down, only go as far as you can while maintaining your long neutral spine
    • Watch your knees and make sure they do not bend past your toes
    • Also focus on keeping your knees tracking over your 2nd and 3rd toes so they don’t cave in or bow out
    • Grip the floor evenly through all ten toes
    • The goal is to get your hip joint below your knee joint (this position is called “parallel”) — but work up this and only lower as far as you can while maintaining proper form
    • Squeeze your seat when you come back up to standing
    • Do at least 3 rounds of 15 sets
    • You can also up the intensity of your workout by holding your squat down as low as you can for as long as you can, then adding little pulses, moving your hips up and down 1″. Get ready for that booty burn!

    Now here’s what NOT to do:

    Avoid These Common Squat Form Mistakes » From the Infinite Embers blog

    I can’t even stand to look at this one. Like just looking at my back makes me want to scream.

    What’s funny is that I was posing in this horrible Gollum position for this photo when a couple walked by… they must have been so confused watching my husband taking photos of me like this. I like to think they assumed that I was attempting to do this squat as I tried to look super cool on Instagram with this beautiful Hawaiian view and that no one had the heart to tell me that I really sucked.

    This was actually the second round of photos we took showing the bad form, because in the first one I didn’t jut out my knees far enough for it to look wrong. It hurts to do! Guys! Why do you do it?!

    This picture is obviously overly exaggerated, but sadly I actually do see these mistakes quite often when I teach. Thankfully not often all at once though – it’s actually fairly difficult to try to squat this horribly!

    To recap, here’s what’s going wrong in this photo:

    • My spine is rounded forward – and my chest is caved in
    • I’m also hanging my head down so my neck is rounded forward, too
    • My hips are tucked under like a dog with a tail between its legs instead of in neutral
    • I’m not using my core at all
    • My knees are going way too far forward – past my toes!
    • They’re also caving in towards each other instead of staying in line with my feet
    • My weight is forward in the balls of my feet, not my heels
    • I also have my feet too close together and slightly turned in

    And now a video to bring it all together:

     

    Here I talk through and demonstrate how to do a squat correctly — it’s nice and quick for whenever you need an easy refresher!

    One final note:

    I usually do squats barefoot, but this coral happened to be a bit too sharp for my feet, so flip-flops it was! (They’re Oofos, which are incredibly comfortable and super supportive — here’s a link if you want to buy some! That’s an affiliate link and will help support the blog. I wear these flip-flops every single day and LOVE them.)

    When you do squats barefoot instead of in shoes, it helps you get better grip with your toes and strengthens the muscles in your feet. If you want a way to give them a little TLC after your barefoot workout, I recommend stretching your feet out.

    Do you love doing squats, too? Or is more of a love/hate thing? What do you struggle with the most when doing them? Share your thoughts with me in the Comments!

    xo,

    Amy